The phrase, "sleep divorce", seems alarming if you don't already know what it is.
Sleep divorce is simply a sensationalistic phrase for couples sleeping in different beds or different rooms.
Sleep divorces are more common than you might think. According to a 2023 survey, one-third of couples were sleeping in separate beds!
Why would so many decide on these sleeping arrangements? Is it something you should try?
Reasons to Try a Sleep Divorce
Some people are hard sleepers. It doesn't matter if their partner is running a marathon in their sleep or snoring, they'll sleep right through it all.
How you sleep can determine the rest of your day. Good sleep is more likely to make for a happy, energized day, and bad sleep...
But for others, if their partner is the source of their rough nights, it can create a sense of frustration or even resentment. Negativity like that doesn't do well for sleep – or your relationship.
Here are a few reasons you might consider a sleep divorce:
Snoring
This is probably the most common complaint. Some are able to get used to their partner's nightly orchestral ministrations. If headphones or earplugs aren't working for you, you've tried adjustable bases, gotten help for sleep apnea, and done everything else you can possibly think of, then the solution may be to sleep in another bedroom.
Restlessness
Some partners are space invaders or move around in their sleep, either hitting their better half or moving enough that they disturb the mattress surround them. A newer mattress, or a motion-isolating bed should help prevent this. But it can't help if your partner is stealing the covers.
Different Bedtimes
Just because you're partners doesn't mean you need to go to bed at the same time. If one of you stays up reading or watching tv while the other is trying to sleep or if you're on a different work schedule, going to bed in separate rooms to allow for total darkness can help you both get to sleep easier and sleep better.
Some Like it Cold... or Other Differences
Some like it chilly, some like it cold, and some don't mind at all. Some want a top sheet. Some need a weighted blanket. Some want a firm mattress or a memory foam with a pillow top. There are myriad reasons why there might be small disagreements.
The undeniable fact is a sleep divorce can give you exactly what you need so you don't need to compromise. Ultimately, this can lead to a better relationship because you'll both be able to get proper rest, sleep deeply, and recover.
But, it is not the only solution.
Sleep Divorce Alternatives
Not sleeping in the same bed or sleeping in different rooms can create a lack of intimacy and get rid of those late night/surprise kisses and hugs. The time spent apart from each other can create an emotional distance. So, before you make a decision, think it over and choose carefully.
Here are a few options you might consider too.
Separate blankets - Having your own blanket can allow you to moderate your own temperature and you'll be less likely to steal your partner's. Plus, you'll have an added layer of protection for any nighttime movements.
White Noise Machine - Drown out your partner's snoring. The additional noise may also help you sleep easier.
Get a bigger bed - Sometimes it really is that easy. Just finally size up like your partner has probably been asking you to do.
Use a sleep mask - If your partner comes in later than you do or takes longer to wind down, a sleep mask can keep you in the dark.
Regardless of your sleeping decision, we're here to support you and help you get to sleep comfortably at a comfortable price.